MeMe’s latest picture:
5 months!
I haven’t posted in what seems like forever, mostly because I have trying to do everything around here.
January was spent gearing up for the Outdooring party. I slaved over self-printed invitations and sent them out to whoever we could think of 3-4 weeks before the actual event. My husb was going to our new neighbors handing out invites to them. Planning was primarily done by my mother, who was hell-bent on running the show. We clashed on a few things and my husb kept trying to turn the party into everything more than just a party for MeMe: a birthday party for him (Feb 2nd was his day), a housewarming party, and a pool party. No buddy, this party is celebrating MeMe’s birth and giving all of our friends a chance to see her all at once. We planned this party like it was a wedding or something.
February 13th was showtime. First of all, the ladies that were supposed to bring the food and come early ended up coming a little late. Eeek! Mom was taking a nap after setting up and cleaning and guests were arriving before she got dressed. By this time it was 2:30 and the party was supposed to start at 2. So I greeted the guests with MeMe in her party dress.
Then my husb was still trying to get the stereo system set up while guests were arriving. I was not happy about that. First, he spent way too much money on it. Second, he waited until the last minute to get it working, so even though music was playing when folks arrived, the speakers outside in the backyard didn’t work. He ended up having my father and other guys help him almost all night long trying to get that damn thing bumping right. Drove me nuts! I told him he should’ve started working on that thing the day he bought it, not the night before the party. Yikes!
We had MeMe’s naming ceremony. This involves letting baby girl know that her name comes from a long line of ancestors. Her name goes back several generations on my mother’s side. We also told her Akan name: Esi, for all the baby girls born on Sunday, she shares the spirit and strength of the community.
This was my backyard at the beginning of the party:
these were the folks who came on time!
By the end of party, around 9:30pm, people had come and gone, ate and drank, socialized and networked and loved seeing MeMe. We also got compliments on the house. Nice! We felt good after all was said and done. Plus the cleanup wasn’t too bad, my kitchen and backyard were pretty clean, only a few things to pick up. Cans and bottles were all in bags by the end of the night. Thank God for helpful and cleanly friends!
My MIL and sisters-in-law were supposed to visit right before the party, but had to cancel. My MIL’s mother was in a coma and died on Feb 18th. The funeral was in indiana a week later so we flew with baby out to see my husband’s family. MeMe did pretty well on the plane. Only needed to eat once, got changed twice, and quietly played in our laps. She dozed off a couple of times, and cried at the end of the flight when the altitude changed a little fast. Good job baby girl! She got a lot of love from her other side of family. She’s only known my side for a long time. My husb’s brother, living out in Las Vegas, didn’t come to our party for no particular reason. Even though he is a 4 hour drive or1 hour flight away, he still didn’t come. He and his new wife (we’ll see how long this one lasts) didn’t even apologize or give a reason for not coming. But we saw them at the funeral. Go figure. I can’t stand that man at all. And his wife wears too much makeup. She looked like a clown. All the girl cousins in my age group thought the same thing! We were laughing about it. Any way, MeMe has tons of second cousins to play with and they’re all girls. 2 babies were less than 9 months old. Soo000 cute. But MeMe is hands down the cutest 
Husb is ready for another one…whaaaaattttt? Another one next year. His theory is that it might take awhile so we should start trying next Jan-March. Hmmm…..I was very shocked when he first told me that. But in some ways he’s right but I think he just wants to be surrounded by kids! He once said he would love 6. But he’ll settle for 3 or 4. Men have no idea how hard it is! I am agreeable about starting next year. But this year, I need some time to recover from the last pregnancy and have all the fun I denied myself last year. Trips, amusement parks, casinos, concerts! All that stuff. I also want to enjoy MeMe’s infancy as much as possible. Months fly by fast.
Wow! the months do fly by!! She is soooooo adorable!!
Hi
I was just looking over your blog and it’s great! I also have IC and lost a son. For the past 3.5 years I have been researching and writing a book on IC and preterm labor. I am now in the phase of getting other women’s stories and I would love to talk to you about using some of your posts in my book. When I went through my loss and my next pregnancy with my daughter it was the worst experience of my life. Like most of us, we live in fear, the “what ifs”, anxiety…you know. I am putting in the book all the research I have gathered about cerclages and when to place them, bed rest, FFN testing, PPROM, infection etc, as well as the issues we deal with. (Pelvic rest and effect on our relationships, fear, depression, what getting a cerclage is really like, discharge and the list goes on and on!)
This book is really important to me to provide to women the knowledge that I so desperately needed when I lost my boy.
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Kelly